CLUB MFT™ · COMMUNITY

Community Guidelines

This is where we do the practice together. A few agreements keep it a good place to be. Takes 3 minutes to read.


What the chat is for

  • Practice together. "Who wants to do breathwork together at 9am MT?" "Rage Jam at my place Wednesday, any Denver moms?"
  • Pick a tool. "Which Reset Button skill would you use when bedtime's gone off the rails and you're at an 8?"
  • Answer the weekly question. Jump in on the Conversation Cards. Short answers count.
  • Share wins. Any size. "Did the Cold Reset in the car instead of yelling at pickup."
  • Journal together. Share your answer to the prompt, as much or as little as you like.

Venting is welcome too. The chat just works best as the place we get out of our heads and back into our bodies.

Our agreements

  1. No judgment. Not of yourself, not of anyone else. Every mom here is parenting under different conditions.
  2. Share experience, not advice. "What helped me was…" instead of "You should…"
  3. What's said here stays here. We request that you do not take screenshots, and you do not share someone else's story. Our goal is to create a comfortable environment for sharing difficult conversations; however since this is a public forum, we can’t guarantee that anything shared will remain confidential.
  4. Assume good intent. Text flattens tone. Ask before you react.
  5. No kids' faces. Share the chaos, not the children.
  6. Moms' issues, yes. Culture wars, no. Paid leave and childcare, all day. Partisan or religious debates, no.

Share with care: this is not therapy or medical advice

The site administrators and moms reading are not your therapists or medical professionals, and many are carrying their own hard things. So:

  • Keep hard stories short, and skip the graphic details. Say what happened in a sentence or two, then what you need.
  • Add a content note before heavy topics: "CN: pregnancy loss" (or birth trauma, NICU, grief, scary thoughts).
  • Say what you need. "Just venting" or "Has anyone been through this?"
  • Vent, then move. Name it, then try a Reset skill or a Rage Jam. Rehashing the same hard thing in a group tends to make everyone feel worse.
  • Don't play therapist. No diagnosing. "That sounds so hard. Have you told your provider?" is plenty.

Your story isn't too much. This chat just can't hold all of it safely. A therapist, your provider, or the PSI HelpLine can.

Instead of…Try…
A detailed, start-to-finish birth trauma story"CN: birth trauma. Her birthday's next week and I'm dreading it. Anyone else get anniversary feelings?"
"That sounds like PPD, you should get on meds.""That sounds so heavy. Have you been able to talk to your provider?"
"I could never let my kid have that much screen time.""Survival mode is a real season. You're doing it."
Posting the same painful situation every dayA one-line update, then "Going to try the Cold Reset."

Not allowed

Harassment, hate speech, or shaming anyone's choices · medical advice (diagnosing, medication) · screenshots or others' private info · selling, MLMs, or DM pitches · graphic or sexual content · harmful misinformation.

These posts get removed. Repeat or serious cases can mean losing chat access or membership.

If you're struggling

This chat isn't watched 24/7. If you're in crisis, reach out now:

  • In danger right now: 911
  • 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988, or chat at 988lifeline.org
  • National Maternal Mental Health Hotline: call or text 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262)
  • PSI HelpLine: 1-800-944-4773

If another member is in crisis, share these numbers and flag a moderator.

Moderation

The MFT team moderates user comments in good faith, but we do not monitor all conversations and are not obligated to intervene or act in any specific instance. Flag a post or message a moderator anytime; reports are private. Most things end with a friendly nudge, but we may remove posts or members when we determine it is necessary in our discretion. Members’ private messages may be accessed and reviewed by site administrators for safety or other reasons; however, we do not monitor private messages generally. MFT and the moderators are not responsible for any content in the chat or any content, privacy policies, or practices of any third-party websites that may be linked within the chat.

You can mute or leave any chat, anytime. Protecting your nervous system is part of the practice.

Mandated reporting

Some people in this community, including CLUB MFT staff, licensed professionals and some members, are mandated reporters. If a mandated reporter becomes aware of abuse or neglect of a child, or mistreatment of an at-risk adult or elder, they may be legally required to report it, no matter where or how they learned of it, including in these chats. See the Privacy section of the Membership Agreement.

Legal Disclaimers

No information that you receive or learn from the chat should be considered to be professional advice. Users should consult qualified professionals before taking any action based upon information from any comments. All use of the chat is at your own risk, and you agree that MFT will not be liable for any information or materials provided here or any damages, injuries, claims or expenses arising from such information or materials.

Views, opinions, and advice expressed by users do not reflect those of the moderators, administrators, or MFT. MFT does not guarantee the truthfulness, completeness, or safety of user posts.

Copyright

Please only share content you have the right to share. Our copyright and DMCA takedown policy is in the Membership Agreement.